Wedding planning: pros and cons
Thursday, Aug 10, 2017 06:00 am
Iím getting married in a little more than three weeks and, I must say, itís a bittersweet feeling for nearly two years of wedding planning to be coming to an end. On one hand, Iím sad one of the most special times of my life will soon be over, and on the other hand, Iím relieved.
Although Iíve enjoyed researching and booking venues, photographers, DJs, florists, makeup artists, etc., my bank account has not exactly enjoyed receiving the bills.
Iíve enjoyed getting in touch with my newfound crafty side, though, when deciding what to have for centrepieces on tables and favours for guests.
Losing weight has not been easy Ė they say a woman is often the skinniest she will be in her lifetime on her wedding day Ė but how is that possible when all I want to do is stress eat, drink wine while writing out place cards and eat a chocolate or two while putting them in boxes for guests?
Above everything, though, the most stressful (and surprising) aspect of wedding planning, for me, has been how upset people get over weddings. My fiancť and I donít have all the money in the world to invite everyone weíve ever crossed paths with to our wedding. But it seems thatís what people expect.
I have a large family, so I had to use the one-year rule when choosing which cousins to invite, and I still received upset messages from ones who werenít invited. Why do people who havenít been in my life for years all of a sudden want to come to my wedding so badly? If I had a baby, would they want to come see the baby? I donít think so.
Iíve also had cousins decide not to come at all because they didnít get a plus one for their new boyfriend. And, Iíve had people comment on the amount of friends weíve invited, but those are the people who are actually in our lives and really care to see us say ĎI do.í
When are we going to get past the old-fashioned wedding expectations and realize itís a changing world? Different rules apply today than when my parents were married 25 years ago. Itís not as easy as renting a hall and supplying an open bar for the entire family to come and bring plus ones.
At the end of the day, I know itís going to be the best day of my life, because Iím marrying the man of my dreams. But Iím looking forward to putting the wedding plans behind us and beginning our marriage on a happy note.