I’m getting married in a little more than three weeks and, I must say, it’s a bittersweet feeling for nearly two years of wedding planning to be coming to an end. On one hand, I’m sad one of the most special times of my life will soon be over, and on the other hand, I’m relieved.
Although I’ve enjoyed researching and booking venues, photographers, DJs, florists, makeup artists, etc., my bank account has not exactly enjoyed receiving the bills.
I’ve enjoyed getting in touch with my newfound crafty side, though, when deciding what to have for centrepieces on tables and favours for guests.
Losing weight has not been easy – they say a woman is often the skinniest she will be in her lifetime on her wedding day – but how is that possible when all I want to do is stress eat, drink wine while writing out place cards and eat a chocolate or two while putting them in boxes for guests?
Above everything, though, the most stressful (and surprising) aspect of wedding planning, for me, has been how upset people get over weddings. My fiancé and I don’t have all the money in the world to invite everyone we’ve ever crossed paths with to our wedding. But it seems that’s what people expect.
I have a large family, so I had to use the one-year rule when choosing which cousins to invite, and I still received upset messages from ones who weren’t invited. Why do people who haven’t been in my life for years all of a sudden want to come to my wedding so badly? If I had a baby, would they want to come see the baby? I don’t think so.
I’ve also had cousins decide not to come at all because they didn’t get a plus one for their new boyfriend. And, I’ve had people comment on the amount of friends we’ve invited, but those are the people who are actually in our lives and really care to see us say ‘I do.’
When are we going to get past the old-fashioned wedding expectations and realize it’s a changing world? Different rules apply today than when my parents were married 25 years ago. It’s not as easy as renting a hall and supplying an open bar for the entire family to come and bring plus ones.
At the end of the day, I know it’s going to be the best day of my life, because I’m marrying the man of my dreams. But I’m looking forward to putting the wedding plans behind us and beginning our marriage on a happy note.